This is one of my first articles.  Click here to read it.  It is so important to take care of yourself.  Never put another person before yourself.  You are just as important as the narcissist in your life.  Narcissists tend to drain us of everything we have to give, and they also want anything we try to save for ourselves.  In their eyes, they are entitled to it.  

I am reminded of a joke I once heard from a place I can't remember (may have even been another website?):

How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb?

One.  He will hold onto the lightbulb, but the world has to revolve around him.

to just do the best that I can.  To have faith that my needs will be met.  To know that someday, sooner than I think, I will meet the person that is right for me and my children.  To walk away from any situation that becomes unbearable.  My mental and physical faculties depend on it.

Being with a narcissist can break down even the strongest personality.  I was very headstrong coming into this thing.  By the time I left there, I was a nervous wreck, unsure of what I could accomplish in life.  It took two years of Al-Anon (most narcissists are alcoholics, and vice versa) to realize that the situation was beyond my control.  And as long as I were to stay in the situation, my life would be unmanageable.  Walking away was the only solution.  I am worth more than that.  I am important too, and it is imperative that I take care of myself and my own needs.  The narcissist will find another host.  He probably already has.

Narcissists lie.  A lot.  They just can't help themselves.  Sometimes they do it just to see if you will catch them, but usually they do it to impress.  And they are frighteningly good at it. 

Read more.

That's what it is when you are in love with a narcissist.  Smoke and Mirrors.  It's the narcissist looking at himself in the mirrors and you smoking a million cigarettes trying to figure out where you went wrong and how to get it back on track.  And they will just let you go ahead and feel that way.  After all, they are perfect, it was YOU who went wrong...

Here are some more links to my articles:

KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAY

How to Handle Angry People

50 Ways

In the Presence of Love

More to follow!

Being married to a narcissist is a very lonely experience.  I hope to provide here an understanding of the brain of the narcissist, an understanding of why the partner of the narcissist is susceptible to the trap and an escape route.

I have been writing articles on hubpages since I left my husband a few months ago.   Probably the most heartfelt was this one.  Now I have chosen to have a blog, because this disorder is becoming an epidemic.  It has become a mission for me to spread the word as widely as possible.  Let the blogging BEGIN!