Mr. Wonderful is being awfully nice now.  However, our conversations are limited to the children, thank God!  He was probably told to do that by his lawyer.  I have to say that it makes me suspicious.  

When we were together, he was only nice until he got what he wanted, whatever it was that he was wanting at that particular time.  Then he would morph back into the belligerent drunk...

Have led me to write another article.  The subject of the article is how to recognize and appreciate a nice guy after escaping the clutches of an abusive partner (whether or not he has NPD...).

To read the article, click here.

It is talking about verbal abuse.  But I have realized that many abusers are simply narcissists.  Check it out!  http://www.youarenotcrazy.com/

I also posted another article on hubpages today, which you can access by clicking here.

It was probably put best (unwittingly, as he was not particularly talking about narcissists) by Martin Sculman, in his book Karmic Astrology, when he says, "...the individual has many lessons to learn in the area of partnerships, marriage and cooperation with others....while he may pretend to be a good listener for the sake of society's acceptance, he rarely takes advice given to him...Although he will be the last to admit it openly, he never quite notices others as much as himself.  He has great apprehension about being outdone, and will go out of his way to secure for himself a position where his dominion will not be challenged...this is truly the individual who wishes to be 'King of the Mountain...'

...he never truly sacrifices himself...He can relate to others so long as they don't shackle or bind his sense of freedom...the marriage state is not one that comes easy for him...His karma is to learn consideration for others, for in his desire to be the center of attention he projects himself as more important than he usually is, thereby shutting out the very love he claims he is being denied.  Still, he desires to control others, and in this ability to control he bases his security...[he is] faithful to himself, and therein his allegiance ends."

This is just bits and pieces of one chapter of the book, amazingly this chapter applies to my narcissist (North Node in the Seventh House for anyone else who understands astrology.  I would not be surprised if this was a common placement for narcissists!).

Funny, I still call him "my narcissist," when really, he belongs to nobody.  Hmmm, maybe I will start going with calling him, "my estranged husband!"